At the end of the 90s, it was for me the 'bitches', 'hoes', 'gangsta rap', vocoders etc. that ended my connection with and interest in modern music. Glorification of violence and bad behaviour, toxic masculinity. The end of love; the end of trust, kindness and intimacy.
I stopped listening to popular hits, made my own playlists and later started my search for older music. Morality in music sunk to the bottom. What a stark contrast with the 80s and 70s.
I sympathize as I really dislike that type of music/violence. But there is still trust, kindness and intimacy in music even today. There's also sadness and vulnerability. You normally have to look hard for it, but sometimes such music even becomes popular by some miracle.
Billie Eilish - When the Party's Over
Don't you know I'm no good for you?
I've learned to lose you, can't afford to
Tore my shirt to stop you bleedin'
But nothin' ever stops you leavin'
Quiet when I'm coming home and I'm on my own
I could lie, say I like it like that, like it like that