The problem with anecdotal weather is that...it is anecdotal. And most people have a very very short and faulty memory. When (many years ago) I crosschecked my grandparents stories about weather during their childhood with actual weather data it turned out that their memories were less than exact to put it mildly. So here are some actual data from Central Europe (Budapest).
Monthly average temperature, monthly minimum temperature, monthly maximum temperature 1960-1990 avg vs 2010-2019 avg
1. -0,6 vs 1,3 ; -9,3 vs -7 ; 9,5 vs 11,5
2. 1,9 vs 3,1 ; -7,3 vs -5,3; 11,5 vs 15,1
3. 6,3 vs 8,2 ; -4,1 vs -1,9; 19,8 vs 21
4. 11.8 vs 13,8 ; 1,1 vs 2,4; 24,4 vs 27,8
5. 16,6 vs 17,4; 5,4 vs 6,6; 28,6 vs 30,2
6. 19,8 vs 22 ; 9,5 vs 11,7; 31,6 vs 34,8
7. 21,5 vs 23,8 ; 11,8 vs 12,6; 33,5 vs 36,4
8. 20,8 vs 23,5 ; 10,9 vs 12,6; 33,1 vs 36,1
9. 17 vs 18,2 ; 6,6 vs 7,7; 29,5 vs 31,1
10. 11,5 vs 12,5 ; 0,8 vs 1,8; 23,8 vs 24,7
11. 5,7 vs 7,9 ; -3,4 vs -0,9; 16,5 vs 19,1
12. 1,6 vs 2,8 ; -7,3 vs -6,4; 11,5 vs 13,7
As you can see average temperatures rose cca 2 C but monthly minimum and maximum temperatures also rose similarly.
I also checked the standard deviation of temps and other distribution measures, eg skewness, the length of the growing season, last and first frost date, etc. The point is that all temperatures rose and volatility is not statistically higher than before. The weather is not at all more weird than it used to be (although it seems like that to us), it is not that the highs are higher and the lows are lower, and it is not more extreme. It is simply warmer. Shorter, warmer winters, longer, warmer summers,early spring, late autumn. It is not more chaotic than before. Simply, my country is slowly transitioning into the subtropical zone.
Warming does not cause more volatility in temperatures, it just causes warming. And coincidentally more rain globally but a changing distribution of rain which could be more dangerous than the effect of temperatures as adaptation to (much) less or much more precipitation can be very hard.